Tuesday, January 28, 2014

My Vickie…

I’ve sat down to write this so many times, but could never bring myself to do it.  I don’t know why – maybe because that would make it final, make it real.  Maybe because I would just get so overwhelmed, so sad.  But tonight I want to share this with everyone.  I don’t want anyone to ever forget her, but most importantly, I want everyone to know how much she meant to me.


Vickie and I were what most would call the unlikeliest of friends.  Now for those of you who don’t know our past, Vickie and JP dated for several years.  Things obviously didn’t work out for them, but I’m glad they dated.  Now I realize most wives don’t feel that way about their husband’s ex, but had they not dated, our paths may never have crossed. 


I’ll never forget the first time I met Vickie.  We were at a Super Bowl party in 2004.  JP and I had only been dating a few months.  She was upset when she got to the party because the food she had brought had spilled all over her car.  And true to Vickie, she wasn’t upset about the spill in her car, she was upset that she no longer had any food to contribute.  You see, that’s how Vickie was.  It was never about her – it was always about others.


Vickie and I didn’t become best friends over night, but over the years, we grew close.  We were at each other’s weddings, we spent most weekends together, and we helped throw each other’s parties and showers.


Speaking of parties and showers, Vickie had a talent in party planning like no other.  She did everything from designing invitations to planning and making the food.  She always gave 110%, and everything she was a part of was magnificent.  She just had a knack.  There’s definitely been a void in this area.  I can’t tell you how many times this past year Lauren and I have said (while trying to plan something), “We need Vickie.”

But it’s the simple things that I miss the most.

The New Year’s Eve parties…


The ski trips…

Gatlinburg 44

where we all learned how to ‘squash the bug’…

Gatlinburg 86

The dinners out…


The girls’ Christmas parties…

Girls Xmas 21

The new friendships that were created through her…


As hard as losing her has been, I am comforted by the last memory I have of her.  It was at church, the Sunday before she passed away.  I will always carry this with me - I will always find peace in this.

I don’t know that you ever ‘get over’ the loss of someone so special, I think you just learn a new normal, and we’ve all definitely had to find a new normal.  I still find myself picking up the phone to call her – to ask her something, to invite her to something, or just to tell her something that’s going on.  I haven’t been able to take her number out of my phone.  I don’t know that I ever will. 

To my Vickie -

I miss you more than you can imagine.  This world is not the same without you.  I know many hearts were broken the day we lost you, but my prayer is that through your loss, people have realized how short life is – how we are never guaranteed tomorrow.  I had the privilege of watching your relationship with God grow so much, and that is what gives me comfort in all of this.  I have prayed a lot for your family the past year.  I cannot imagine the hurt they are still dealing with.  You ARE definitely loved by so many.  So, goodbye for now.  My prayer is that we’ll meet again someday. 


I love you my sweet friend.


Sherry Pyle said...

Such a beautiful tribute to her.
I can hardly hold the tears back but am so thankful for your loving heart. Vickie was very special I meant her when she was 15. One day we will see her again. She loved you and Jeremy so much. I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful friend.

Anonymous said...

What a beautiful tribute to Vickie! I didn't really know her at all, but through your family and some of my other friends that knew and worked with her, I have learned about what a selfless person she was. Losing someone so suddenly and without warning is very difficult and as you know I know that all too well. Life is very short, and we never, ever know when we could lose someone or when our last day could be. We need to make the most of every day and let the people we love and care about know just how much every single day. Thank you so much for sharing with us. It is so difficult when you lose someone to allow yourself to share things about them because it brings back so many feelings. Thanks again!!!

Teresa Pardue said...

That previous comment was from Teresa Pardue, Amanda. I couldn't get it to let me edit the comment.

LAUREN said...

So beautiful Amanda!