Wednesday, March 23, 2011

want out?

yesterday, i was going through the mail, and i found one of those val-pak envelopes.
you know the one - they're blue and filled with a bunch of worthless coupons and ads.
anyways, i always go through them in hopes of finding an 'out of this world' coupon that is going to save me a million dollars on something i don't need!
as i was quickly flipping through, one of them in particular caught my eye. at the top it said:
Want Out?
i, like i'm sure you just did, thought 'want out of what?'
the answer as i found by reading the next line: your marriage.
yes, you heard read me right!
it was a company advertising their services to help you get out of your marriage.

disclaimer: i am a christian who has very strong beliefs about marriage. if you don't, please don't read any further as i am likely to offend you.

i was shocked!
i was speechless!
i was immediately talking out loud to myself because i was simply appalled.
maybe this is what is wrong with our society - offers to help you get divorced are now being delivered right to your mailbox.

does anyone take their marriage vows seriously anymore?
you promised to love, honor, and cherish your spouse (not love, live with, and divorce them) - IN FRONT OF GOD AND ALL OF THOSE WITNESSES!
how can you break a promise you made before God?
how would you feel if God broke His promises to you?

marriage is serious stuff. it's not a decision to be made lightly.
if you find yourself miserable in your marriage, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!

the more and more i look around, the more and more i find people who just get tired of it all.
well, duh! of coarse you are tired. marriage is extremely hard work. i would be concerned if you weren't tired. when you get tired of work or your family or your dog, you don't just get rid of them - you work it out. you find a way to be happy again!

for those of you who don't know, i am married to quite possibly the most wonderful man on the face of this earth (seriously), but do you think that there aren't days where i ask myself 'why did we get married?'
even mr. perfect gets on my nerves sometimes, but it doesn't mean we give up.
we talk, argue, yell, whatever we need to do to get our point across, and then we get over it.
if i'm not living up to his expectations then he tells me, and providing it's a reasonable expectation, i make the necessary changes, as does he.

and since i'm very clearly not the authority on marriage, let's see what the authority - the Bible - has to say about divorce!
IT very clearly says that when two people are married, they become one flesh and they are not to be separated by man.
IT also says that other than adultery, two people are not to divorce. if they do and remarry, then they are committing adultery.
And, if you'd like to read it for yourself, here are some of the scriptures:
Matthew 19:3-9
Mark 10:2-12
Luke 16:18

i am not perfect.
i am not without sin.
i am guilty, just like the rest of the world, however, i do my best to live my life by the word of God and in His word, are commands for how WE are all to live.
and they are just that, commands.
not suggestions.
not opinions.

it saddens me that so many people water down the Bible in order to make it fit their lifestyle.
that's not how it works, folks!
remember that our time here on earth is short compared to the time we will spend in eternity - our decisions we make now determine heaven or hell.

i really don't want to leave this post on a bad note.
i'm not judging people who are divorced, or who are getting divorced, i am just sharing my knowledge, my beliefs, my Father!

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